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Cora:

Have you always dreamed of taking music lessons? It’s never too late to start!

I’m Cora Naylor – Certified Co-Active Coach and Emotion Code Practitioner.

Now that you’re an Empty Nester you have time to find new activities especially for you! I know one of the things I’ve always had in the back of my mind is to learn the play the piano. To talk to us about piano, harp or voice lessons I’ve invited Cymber Quinn to join us today.

Cymber is thriving in the middle of her second career, as a musician and music teacher. She grew up in a musical family. At age 42, Cymber found herself at a cross-roads. Either continue to work in corporate and deal with illness, or find a new life and new health and wellness. In choosing the latter, she has journeyed into parts of herself that she left behind, finding her new life in the adult version of her childhood dreams. Today, Cymber is a master teacher of harp and piano, and a Level III practitioner of Somatic Voicework. She is also trained in Heartbased Singing and sound healing toning circles. Welcome Cymber!

Cymber:
Thank you. thanks for having me here. I'm so excited. 

Cora:
Yeah. I  know especially playing the harp. it's a little bit of a different thing we don't hear a lot about that so it's nice to give people options of things they maybe never even heard of before. 

Cymber:
Right. Yeah, I'd love to work with people who read music who don't read music. usually they come to me and they say - I always wanted to, I had this secret dream. I've been a lot of my students are older and they're at the crossroads where your viewers are. their kids are grown, and it's time to do something else. And maybe it's not new, or maybe it's new ish, or maybe it's that dream that you have from childhood that just got satisfied because you needed to go do other things for a while, which is what happened to me. 

So, I was away from music for 27 years. As you kindly wrote read in my intro, I had illnesses when I was working in corporate. even though I loved the corporate environment my body did not. so this is a second career for me to play harp, to sing, and to teach. 

Cora:
I know we were just talking a few minutes about finding our purpose. I think for you music was your purpose, maybe you could share a little bit about that journey for you. 

Cymber:
So when I was sick it was becoming evident that I was not going to go back to corporate. I really didn't know what I was going to do next. that was a really uncomfortable place because I spent most of my life knowing, but going to go here to the cubicle or the meeting. so here I am facing like the unknown. I was working with a Reiki Master, an energy healer who said you need to go out and look in the world for the thing that you left behind when you were a child. I didn't know what that was, I mean now you can see, you know, it's music in a very big way. But I didn't know. when I had signed off for music 27 years earlier I really thought I was never going back. So, when I talk with people about finding their purpose, I say I'll tell you what I did. which was, I walked around with an open heart and kind of a Dr Seuss attitude of are you my purpose. Are you my purpose. Are you are you my purpose. I've told that story a number of times but as I was thinking about talking with you Cora -  I was thinking, you know, if you get into that Dr. Seuss place which is the story I'm referring to is “are you my mother”- it put me in this child place. That was pretty safe. I'm in a Dr. Seuss book I'm walking around in my life like it's a Dr Seuss book. 

So, two or three months goes by and I look at this and I go, man I've looked at Batman maybe I felt like definitely not not gonna be a lawyer. Something's like I could, if I could force myself to do it. That's not your purpose. If you feel like, do it, nobody can make it work that's not your purpose. then it was around Christmas, and I opened up a catalog. Your Holiday Catalog and there was a picture of a harp, and when I saw that I had this a electric memory, which I don't know if we have time to go into the whole memory but I remember being a kid. Seeing a harpist, and knowing at that moment when I was six years old, that I wanted to do this.

And then life happened and I do write about it on my blog, you know what all happened between when I left music at age 15 and when I join back up again at age 42. But it revolved around this memory when I was six, and I knew it, like if you put your hand on the hood of a running car you can feel the vibration and you know that engine is running. It was like that. It was so like, Oh, I forgot all about that. other people's purpose might not have an element of forgetting they might have known all along and really wanting to get back to it. For me there was an element of forgetting.

once I had that feeling of like, ah, then I had to get into action. And make it happen in the real world. That's a whole different story. 13 years later

Cora:
Yeah. It is a great start.  I think often with purpose it is going back to what are the things like how did you play as a kid. For a lot of people. I also like if people don't know what to do, is that if you know Shonda Rhimes that wrote Grey's Anatomy, she wrote a book called “The year of Yes”  so to say yes to everything for a year and, you know, be open to things because you don't know where it's going to come from. So what are some advice that you can give empty nesters who want to start up with music or maybe get back to music.

Cymber
I would say if you played an instrument before see if you'd like to take that up again. If not, I recommend piano because they're so easy to get. And there's lots of piano teachers out there. And then, also, voice. I mean maybe your music has been literally shut down so you haven't been able to even voice this. And that was true for me. I started out playing harp, in that and I have done and I still do lots of that but a couple of years ago I seriously started studying voice. I found some freedom in my purpose because I have a stronger voice - like literally the muscles are stronger. So the advice is find something you like and try it. I mean, just like you're saying Cora, say Yes – say yes and try it. I'm not gonna have to like it forever, you know, just say yes and say okay. No. Yes. No. No. No. Yes. No. 

Cora:
Yeah, yeah. At least give it a try. then you'll know, or maybe it will one thing will lead to something else, which you never know.

Cymber:
I love working with my students to uncover their true voice, and then help them sing country or jazz or rock or whatever it is. but finding that finding what your voice is like having your thumbprint in your voice. And I feel women, that's especially important because as empty nesters you've spent your great deal of your life in the voice of your family, speaking for your children, possibly speaking for your spouse in certain situations, and who speaks for you. it's not so much. I mean that's just the way it's structured so your own voice might be a mystery. And it might be something worth looking into. 

I do somatic voice work which is based in the body. if you go to the somatic voice work website there's lots of teachers there may be somebody close to you. I work online exclusively right now with the virus, so I can work with anyone. 

Cora:
So that's what yeah thank goodness for technology. So, this COVID thing's been working for you then. 

Cymber:
It has been, I've been looking online. I've been teaching it online for four years because I have students all over the country. But now you know people are calm and they're like I need something to do or have the time now to pursue this uninterrupted time. So, my studio has been filling with people like surprises like you're talking about being open to what could the gifts of COVID be for me and my students. 

we're experimenting more and more with real time technology so that there won't be a lag. so we can sing together, we can play together. And that's one of the challenges in online lessons right now but really close to solving that. 

Cora:
So this voice lessons of somatics stuff that you do. do people actually have to sing. I love a lot of us are not singers. So I'm just curious if that's for anybody. 

Cymber:
so everybody can benefit from it but I also work with professional speakers. Your voice has got to be strong to carry your message, and to be heard.

it's making sounds. I do work with singers and we do work on songs, but that's a very small part of what I do. What I really love listening for is, is your voice balanced, not a little technical in the voice area but we have a speaking voice and down here and then we have a voice that's up here that's cartoony.

we don't speak up here very much. some cultures they do but in America we don't. If that upper voice gets too weak, then you become entirely dependent on this thing which gets lower and deeper and scratchier, and it's more pressure and more work. also for women particularly it's hard to hear you're on the phone. It's hard to hear you in the zoom call. so what I work on is balancing the whole voice mechanisms so even if you don't sing. I'm going to ask you to hold a tone.  can you do. (sounds)

I'm going to just say it's not singing we're just making sound, but we want to exercise, all of the muscles in there so they're all strong so when you need to speak, you know, confidently what it's going to sound like.

Cora:
So, can you give us a little quick demo on the harp here before we wrap up. a lot of people have heard some harp music for a while. it's not something you hear very often. 

Cymber:
I'm going to change microphones because it doesn't pick up very well on this one. Hang on a second.
I'm going to play you something from Hawaii. Because I was there for 15 years. 

You witnessed something nobody ever gets to see, I just broke the string. I'll have to play something else. (harp music playing)

Cora:
That's awesome.

Great. Well I'm so happy we had you on here today Cymber. if anybody wants any more information about harp lessons, piano lessons or more about the voice lessons, be sure to get in touch with Cymber. Her website is running along the bottom of the video here. if people want some more information about the harp in particular if they go to your website, you've got some thing you can give them there. 

Cymber:
Yeah, I do.

If you're interested in the harp, I have a six part learn to play harp series that you just sign up and it's delivered to you through your email. And if you just want to listen. Then you can go to my performance website cymber.com and sign up for my newsletter and I'll send you some music. And I just want to say the first lesson is always free - for any lesson.

Cora:
 so they can always give it a shot. Try it out and. 

Cymber:
Say yes, 

Cora:
say yes, exactly. Awesome. And if anybody's watching it's an empty nester if you want to join my empty nester Facebook group, just comment below with a yes and we'll get you added in. there you'll get support from other women that are empty nesters and learn more about upcoming interviews that we've got. So again, thank you so much for joining us today Cymber and we'll see everybody next time.


Contact Cymber: https://rosalanimusic.net/

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